The year 2012 was a pivotal moment in my life. It started with the engagement to the man I’d thought I’d spend the rest of my life with coming to an abrupt ending. To say I felt broken would be an understatement. From that place of hurt and shame, I became very critical of myself—in some ways unhealthy, but in other ways very necessary.

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As an engineer, my brain’s default is far more dominant in the left side. I can be very analytical, methodical, and fact-based in my thinking. Whatever “it” is, it has to make sense for me as much on paper as it does in my head. While this mindset is a huge asset in my career, it has to be carefully managed, I learned, in my relationships with others and myself.

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I began to become more balanced in my approach to my life and myself, which led me to engage more with my heart and intuition instead of being fully cerebral. I began deconstructing my beliefs around femininity, spirituality, and money, for instance, inquiring where those beliefs came from and whether they were hurting me more than they were helping me.

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I also realized that, though I was doing a great job of mothering my grieving and healing process, I was ready to move on. My need for assistance in healing and moving forward with my life led me to a place of accountability, learning, and unlearning unworthiness. It’s true: Sometimes everything has to fall apart before it can (rightfully) come together.

 

I sold my house, resigned from my 10-year position with the State of South Carolina, resigned from the ministerial position I had at the church, and moved over 200 miles up the highway to Raleigh, North Carolina.

Prior to the heartbreak and the move, I didn’t choose myself much. Afterwards, however, I shifted into a life that I call "Sacred Rebellion," where I'm learning to choose myself in every way, every day. Though I previously considered myself a private person, I started sharing my experiences—on stage, online, one-on-one, and on paper. 

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In 2017, I published my first book, Unlearning Unworthiness: Your Journey to Self-Love & Personal Development. The feedback from the book and my testimony in general solidified my mission of helping women embody a life they love one sacred choice at a time.

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Learn more about my work and how it can serve you, right here, at Loreasample.com.